Today I had an old friend come for lunch and an afternoon chat. We went to high school together, stood up for each other when we got married, were present as we had children, witnessed each other's marriages ending.
Then our lives carried on and our paths rarely crossed. We were each creating new lives. Over the next 20 years we reconnected rarely. Regardless, today our conversation flowed casually and I saw so many of the little traits I loved about her still present. I remembered why we had become such great friends and I missed not having seen her for so long. She shared easily her recent hurts and concerns and I identified with her.
When I hugged her goodbye I felt the familiar warmth of sisterhood we shared many years ago.
I wonder how long it will be before we connect again. I recognize we've both created lives with demands, activities and people that aren't common anymore. It will take effort and intentional choice for us to have the spark from today ignite into something more sustainable.
My daughter does such a great job of maintaining her friendships. It's one of the things I've admired about her over the years. In spite of work, school, family, partner or personal demands, she's always made time for her friends.
I think I'll take a page out of her book and focus on putting time and effort into old friends.
Learning from the younger generation ~ I love it!
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