Having committed to our 20th anniversary trip in January 2010, my wife and I are now intent on imagining the details and remembering our first trip there in 1990. Through these sparks our relationship has been ignited into a roaring fire the like of which we haven’t felt in many years!
I’m amazed at my capacity lately for daydreaming in vivid colour and surround sound. Not only that, I can actually feel the ocean breeze on my face and through my hair when I’m not gazing into green eyes that first captured my attention in the late 80’s.
I used to accept that the passion and lust that exist in the early days of a relationship can’t be recaptured. I used to believe that there were better experiences based in trust, longevity and shared histories. I understood that these gifts were better than lust and lasted longer. I marched to that tune without question; felt safe in the belief actually.
The last couple of weeks have changed my belief window regarding lust in long term relationships.
Since we have committed to “us” by booking this trip, it’s like we lit a match and tossed it into lighter fluid. We can’t get enough of each other and not only that – when we succumb to our fleshly desires – I can’t remember it ever being any better than it is now! I am so surprised and appreciative of this new knowledge!
I am convinced it is in the honouring of each other, the appreciation and gratitude for our relationship and the expectation of what lies ahead that we are blessed with renewed vigour!
I don’t expect this fire to roar continuously. Of course it will need to be fed and attended to, and sometimes – there may be no fuel for it. But as long as it lasts, I plan to bask in the glow. I am blessed in this moment and I am grateful.
The all important words trust, honour, respect and gratitude. They are so important in our foundations of Love. I wish you as much lust as you can both andle!!
ReplyDeleteAnother variable that adds to wanting to be more intimate with each other, speaking from experience, is when we taking the time to take care of our bodies....exercise and eating healthier. I especially find that when we eat properly most of the time, filling up with fruits, vegetables and good protein, we have more energy and just fill good about ourselves. Too many processed foods or high fatty foods, or foods with no nutrient values whatsoever, have soporific qualities and thus no energy. I am so proud of you and Ky for embarking on this new chapter in your lives and no better timing.
ReplyDeleteI am so blessed to have you guys in my life. Thanks for unconditional love